Leaders Don’t Need to be ‘One of the Guys’

The executive assistant ushered me into an impressive office with a great view. Her well-dressed and handsome boss Gary stood up to welcome me. Gary is a successful banker, and we had recently met at a conference where I delivered a speech titled “How to Inspire Action and Commitment.”

After the presentation Gary asked, “Will you review one of my recent presentations to my team to see how I could improve?”

After watching for 10 minutes, I said, “Please remind me of how well educated you are.” Although I knew the answer, I wanted him to hear himself tell me, “I have an MBA, two advanced degrees, and every credential in banking.”

My reply was, “Then why are you such a sloppy speaker?”

Without a moment of hesitation, out of his mouth came words he had never articulated before. “Everybody who reports directly to me was in training at the same time I was. We began our careers together.”

My next question was, “Do you think you are trying to prove that you’re still one of the guys? Because you’re not. You would serve them, the bank, and yourself much better if you spoke the way you are capable of. You do not have to sound as if you are showing off your degrees. Just be clear, concise and conversational. Don’t use words that sound too formal, but lose the sloppy, non-specific language. Be aware of your “kind of” and “sort of” language. Without saying it aloud, model this: ‘If you want to elevate your career and have a job with my title or benefits, this is how you speak and act.’ They will still like you. They will also admire and appreciate you more. This simple change will inspire more action and commitment.”

End of story. We still work together every time Gary has an important presentation to deliver. He and all his direct report colleagues have gone on to even greater success. He has also initiated a monthly meeting open to everyone in the office for an ongoing program called “Executive Conversations.”

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  • Patricia Fripp

    Patricia Fripp is a Hall of Fame keynote speaker, executive speech coach, and sales presentation and online learning expert. Her online learning platform, FrippVT Powerful, Persuasive Presentations, is embraced as a “must-have” by speakers and companies worldwide.

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